What does it require
before you begin to talk about marriage?
Genesis 1:24 says: Then
God said, "Let the earth bring forth the living creature according to its
kind: cattle and creeping thing and beast of the earth, each according to its
kind"; and it was so.(NKJV)
Genesis
1:25 says: And God made the beast of the earth according to its kind, cattle
according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth according to its
kind. And God saw that it was good.(NKJV)
This is the first thing
that God instituted; it is called the seed principle. Every seed has the
capacity to reproduce its kind. In life you reproduce what you are carrying. Sometimes
it comes in form of attitude. You may teach what you know but you reproduce
what you are.
Whenever a man gives
his life to Christ, he takes upon him the image of God.
Genesis 1:26 says: And
God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have
dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the
cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth
upon the earth.(KJV)
God created everything according
to its kind. God also has a seed and so, He reproduce according to His kind. The
bible said in:
Genesis
1:26 says: Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our
likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of
the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing
that creeps on the earth."(NKJV)
God’s tool for creation
is the word. God spoke to the waters and they formed all kinds of creatures,
all of them came out of the water. All the things He created had a source which
is Him and they must remain connected to their source for them to survive. For the
stars, animals, man, vegetations and the rest must remain connected to their
source to remain alive. When God wanted to create man, He spoke to himself and
said “Lets make man in our own image and likeness”.
Every human being has a
place in him/her for God to dwell. Man is the only creature that can harbor the
spirit of God.
1.
GOD GAVE MAN IDENTITY.
The first thing that satan questioned was man’s
identity.
Genesis
3:1-5 says: Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which
the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, "Has God indeed said,
'You shall not eat of every tree of the garden'?" And the woman said to
the serpent, "We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the
fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, 'You shall
not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die."' Then the serpent said
to the woman, "You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you
eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and
evil."(NKJV)
God
already created Adam and Eve to be like Him. This was what enabled Adam to name
all the creatures. Satan has not changed, the first thing he does is to make
you doubt God’s love for you, doubt who you, doubt God’s investment in you, he
makes you doubt your identity. If you don’t know who you are, there is no way
you can successfully fulfill divine purpose in your life. You must know who you
are even in your marriage.
Singleness is not a
state of been unmarried, is the state of completeness. You cannot have a successful
marriage until you are single. Until you have what you contribute in your
marriage, you cannot be successful in it.
The marriage that God
designed is the marriage of two givers. When you have a marriage of two takers,
you should know its satan’s design. What defines your identity is what God said
about you. Your identity is not defined by your circumstances.
Nobody is born by
biological accident. There is no illegitimate child. Before you were born, God
thought of your birth. God designs the end from the beginning but still, it is
your choice. For example, God has designed that everyone should be saved, but not
all will be saved because man still has choice.
The knowledge of the
fact that you are not on earth by accident gives you a great confidence. There is
a reason for you to be in the world. Nobody can intimidate you if you have a
proper knowledge of who you are, it doesn’t matter where the person has been or
what he has done or achieved. If you are a woman in this direction, you will be
successful in your marriage.
You are the one that
determine your identity before others, you are the one that grants permission,
you have control and can determine whether someday should despise you or not. The
way you view yourself is the way others will view you. Don’t let people classify
you else they will put you where they want. Who is the person you see in the
mirror? Understand that you are the image and likeness of God and nobody will
intimidate you. Have confidence and believe in yourself. Know yourself,
celebrate yourself and don’t look down on yourself.
Numbers 13:1-4 says: And
the LORD spoke to Moses, saying, "Send men to spy out the land of Canaan,
which I am giving to the children of Israel; from each tribe of their fathers
you shall send a man, every one a leader among them." So Moses sent them
from the Wilderness of Paran according to the command of the LORD, all of them
men who were heads of the children of Israel. Now these were their names: from
the tribe of Reuben, Shammua the son of Zaccur;(NKJV)
Numbers 13:17 says: Then
Moses sent them to spy out the land of Canaan, and said to them, "Go up
this way into the South, and go up to the mountains,(NKJV)
God has given the children
of Israel a land and has given them the tools and techniques to reclaim the
land because the occupants are illegal occupants. You must have a true
knowledge of every land that God has given you. You are supposed to be significance in
everything you have passion for. If you want to change Nigeria, then you must
have a thorough knowledge of politics, you must be well educated.
Numbers
13:25-33 says: And they returned from spying out the land after forty days. Now
they departed and came back to Moses and Aaron and all the congregation of the
children of Israel in the Wilderness of Paran, at Kadesh; they brought back
word to them and to all the congregation, and showed them the fruit of the
land. Then they told him, and said: "We went to the land where you sent
us. It truly flows with milk and honey, and this is its fruit. Nevertheless the
people who dwell in the land are strong; the cities are fortified and very
large; moreover we saw the descendants of Anak there. The Amalekites dwell in
the land of the South; the Hittites, the Jebusites, and the Amorites dwell in
the mountains; and the Canaanites dwell by the sea and along the banks of the
Jordan." Then Caleb quieted the people before Moses, and said, "Let
us go up at once and take possession, for we are well able to overcome
it." But the men who had gone up with him said, "We are not able to
go up against the people, for they are stronger than we." And they gave
the children of Israel a bad report of the land which they had spied out, saying,
"The land through which we have gone as spies is a land that devours its
inhabitants, and all the people whom we saw in it are men of great stature.
There we saw the giants (the descendants of Anak came from the giants); and we
were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their
sight."(NKJV)
Is
understandable for you to know yourself, but how do you understand how others
view you.
How did these people
know the way they look. They concluded the way the saw themselves is the way
others saw them. You must view yourself the way God view you. As a lady, you
must have confidence in yourself and never allow any man to misdirect you.
2.
THE SECOND THING THAT GOD GAVE MAN WAS ACCOMMODATION.
Genesis
2:8 says; The LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden, and there He put the
man whom He had formed.(NKJV)
The concept here is
independence. God planted a garden and placed two of them to be together. Before
you get ready for marriage, you must first be independent. Until you are
complete and independent, you don’t have anything to offer another person.
3. GOD GAVE HIM A JOB
Genesis 2:15 says: And
the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and
to keep it.(KJV)
This is a source of
income. A man wants to get married and he does not have source of income. How can
his marriage work efficiently? You must be emotionally and financially independent
before you begin to think about marriage. You cannot do well in marriage if you
don’t know how to tend things. You must be able to manage things. A man should
be tested in his ability to tend things.
Before you talk about
marrying somebody, you must know his principles. What does he stand for, what
is his integrity, what are the rules that guide him? If you don’t know where
you are going to how do you then direct somebody.
4.
GOD GAVE THE MAN A SPOUSE
