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THE MAJOR FACTOR IN BUILDING QUALITY RELATIONSHIP

This factor is known as: Friendship

If you start up a relationship on a faulty ground, it will not last. If you build a relationship base at first site, you will have a problem.

Normal men have specifications. When you meet a person for a relationship, you begin to assess him/her for your specifications. The mistake that most people make is that they make up their mind base on their assessment. Intellectual exertion produces more dividends than physical exertion.

If you are falling in love with a lady because she can cook, that means you will have problem. The major thing is friendship. The way to get people interested in you is by first been interested in them Prov. 18:24. This is because human beings are naturally intelligent.

THERE ARE 7 DIFFERENT LEVELS OF FRIENDSHIP

1^ST IS THE LEVEL OF STRANGER: In the olden days, parents brought young ladies for their sons to get married to and this was a success. This might have worked in time past but because of the uniqueness of today, this may not work better. The fundamental difference between our day and that of our grandfathers is that there are more distractions now than then. Distractions have increased.

2^ND IS THE LEVEL OF ACQUAINTANCE: When you get acquainted with someone the first time, you register the person’s face in your memory. You don’t base a relationship on this. You base a relationship on friendship. A genuine person is someone who makes you feel better and that is your friend. There is a certain thing common between you and the person.

There are different kinds of love.

One kind of love is the family love. This is the kind of love you have for your sibling, father and mother in your family. Is that love that makes you react when someone hurts your relation.

Another kind of love is Errors: This is the lust kind of love.

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Another kind of love is Agape Love: This is a deep kind of love, is not physical. Is God kind of love. Love is the sustained direction of the will towards another person. When Jesus commanded us to love one another, He didn’t say we should feel one another. Love is a commitment, sustained direction of the will towards another person. Is not a feeling. Agape love is committing to a person’s welfare. The first effect of agape love is that it gets you delivered. Every other thing can die but a genuine friendship does not die.

Another kind of love is Phileo: This is personal affection. It is what you find at the level of friendship.

3^RD IS THE CASUAL FRIENDSHIP: At this level, you communicate your vision and your interest to your friend. At this level, is easier to talk about your future and vision.

4^TH IS THE LEVEL OF CLOSE FRIENDSHIP: At this level of love, you will be more confident to speak about your future. When you are talking about your future, you are talking about circumstances you’ve overcome. Here, both of you’ve gotten to a certain level of friendship you can tell your friend about the things you conquered.

5^TH LEVEL IS THE INTIMACY LEVEL: Heb 10:24, Gen 2:25: Here, you can now begin to disclose your challenges before you get to the next level. These include health issues, challenges you are having as a person. If you are afraid that they person will not understand, that means you’ve not gotten to the level of intimacy.